The antidote to the downsides of tech

Hello dear readers,

Thee Quaker Project, the organization that produces the Daily Quaker Message, has a tagline: “Quaker media for the 21st century.” We’re always thinking about how to bring Quakerism into the digital age, and when I’m not editing the Daily Quaker, I’m managing Thee Quaker’s social media. So I’m invested in the idea that technology can be a conduit for meaningful spiritual experiences, and from conversations I’ve had with people who engage with our projects, I know that it often is. But like many people, my relationship with technology isn’t simple. I resent the time I waste scrolling and notice myself reflexively reaching for my phone when I’m anxious or bored. My screen is filling up the spaces that used to be empty.

So what to do? We read messages from Friends this month who would have us take a fast from technology to clear our heads or even give up electricity. It was suggested that Quakers take a lesson from the Amish and give each new technology a trial period, then discern whether to adopt it or not, depending on its effect on our core values. 

But the message that spoke to me most came from Mary Ann Kelty, who made it clear that a “cool, well-balanced, pure, healthy mind” doesn’t come naturally to anybody (when she wrote that, the telephone had not yet been invented!). This means it’s up to each of us to build our capacity for silence, to ground our bodies in the presence of God, and to put down roots in our community, a word that showed up again and again as an antidote to the fractured attention and isolation we can so often feel online. Then, like the early Quakers, we can move forward, continuing to seek and explore.

Tomorrow the Daily Quaker Message will begin a summer break, though you’ll still receive a message every Sunday during this “off-season.” We value your feedback, and I encourage you to take our reader survey to give us ideas for how to make this ministry more valuable to you and to share information that helps with our grant applications. We will return to daily messages on August 31.

With wishes for a restful summer,

Maeve Sutherland
Editor of the Daily Quaker Message

How do you create positive boundaries for yourself around screens?
When have you “opted out” of a new technology that you felt detracted from your life? What was the outcome?

I am happy with the ways in which I use my phone. I listen to podcasts, books, and music. I access apps for work and my meetinghouse, including emails. I message and call loved ones. I do not use any social media or watch YouTube/TikTok. I previously owned a yoga studio and felt I had to use social media to promote. I was, likely, correct in that assumption. But after selling my business during the pandemic, I reflected on whether social media was serving me personally in any way and decided it was not. I prefer to have conversations with people in my life rather than having them watch from afar. 

Eva P., Princess Anne, MD USA
I'm new to the Quaker way of life, however one calling that I followed was that I recently switched to a flip phone. I'm 20 years old, so I get some strange looks, but many people have admitted that they wish they had the will to do the same. It was a scary leap to cast aside the technological crutch of an immediate escape whenever life brought up negative emotions, boredom, or a desire for procrastination, however I have not regretted it at any point. My attention span is significantly better, I'm more emotionally regulated, and I spend more of my time living rather than slipping into the unconscious state of phone use that had become such a normal and automatic way to spend hours and hours of my life. This isn't a one size fits all fix, of course, but I highly recommend that every person take a step to decrease their use of technology, especially those designed to be addictive. They're more harmful than most people realize or want to admit. 

Alaina M., Columbia, Missouri, USA
I'm actually a historian of the Luddites and live in the very lanes they took action in, in 1812 (Huddersfield, UK). I work with other like-minded souls and Quakers who have seen the damage instant adoption of everything 'new' can result in. Like the Luddites (who are still gravely misunderstood), we appreciate technology that helps ordinary folks and that don't harm others or the environment, generate greed or lead to 'death of the spirit'. We each have certain days we don't use tech to communicate on (and have overlap days) and we resist 'on screen' communications only. We make every effort to meet in person and to discuss how we can keep on 'putting down' and 'being aware' and encouraging others to engage in small acts of resistance. 

Cris L., Huddersfield, West Yorkshire, UK
A Friend end once said anything that interferes with you and the spirit discontinue. But if it helps then use it as needed. 

Edy N., Princeton, NJ, USA
As the immanence of my disappearing becomes closer; my role is generativity; omitting the constant change of technology. Being comfortable with I don't know and what is only mine to do.
Slower, kinder, few commercials is my mantra.

Barbara V., Northfield, Minnesota, USA
Mon Jun 22

Putting tech on probation

“The Amish are not completely opposed to technology. But they want to ask technology questions. And the primary question they ask of technology is, if we adopt you, what impact will that have on our core values? I think we can learn from the Amish; they’re putting technology on probation.” …
Tue Jun 23

The phone itself isn’t wrong

“The Amish have managed to keep technology in check, and in doing so they have fostered a sense of community that many of us yearn for in our electronically tethered and frenetically paced lives. It’s not that we are not connected—280 million Americans out of a population of 307 million have a cell phone, not to mention Facebook and Twitter accounts—but we still find ourselves inwardly yearning for that something the Amish seem to possess in their lack and which we lack in our possessing: the serenity, the quietness, the sense of knowing where one belongs in a defined community….” …
Wed Jun 24

I’m going on a technology fast

“I’m going on a technology fast…. I’m a little bit scared. There’s this fear that I’ll be disconnected and somehow some amazing thing will happen and I won’t know about it. And then, I don’t know, I won’t have any friends? I guess that’s my fear. It’s not that I don’t need friends, because of course I do, but friends are not who I am. My relationships cannot really address issues of loneliness and deep-seated questions of meaning.” …
Thu Jun 25

Longing for a simpler way of life

“In the late 1980s, young urban professionals Scott and Mary Ann Savage experienced an unexpected call. In the midst of a booming material culture, they were uneasy with their lengthy commutes, hurried lives, and impact on the environment. They began to long for a simpler way of life. A spiritual hunger grew as well, which caused them to read about the plain communities around them in Ohio.” …
Fri Jun 26

When the Luddites got together

“To make technology responsible—answerable to our needs, careful of the approaching limits of the planet, responsive to conscience—such simple decisions must be replaced by complex ones, that include all the things—family, education, nature, faith, and the long-term future—that technolatry ignores. But in what social space will such decisions be made?” …
Sat Jun 27

God’s truth isn’t locked out of our smartphones

“I think the Spirit doesn’t lead us to abandon technology but enables us to better use it. Our Society began with the clearness that the entirety of God’s teaching and truth didn’t end on the last page of the Bible: that God is still teaching! Can we still listen to the Inward Teacher when we impulsively check our smartphones throughout the day? I think that we can. God’s truth isn’t locked in a book or in a specific moment in history; that truth is also not locked out of our modern technologies.” …

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  • Maeve Sutherland

    Maeve Sutherland is a communications professional who never recovered from her wonderful childhood at a Quaker elementary school. She has spent her career helping nonprofits share their stories, from schools and universities, to museums, to radio stations. As a Thomas J. Watson Fellow, Maeve spent a year living in “Peaceable Kingdoms,” pacifist intentional communities around the world, where she learned that everyone has a role to play in shaping a better world. She worked as a freelance social media manager before joining Thee Quaker Project.

    After returning to Quakerism as a young adult, Maeve now attends Chestnut Hill Friends Meeting in Philadelphia.

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